Last week, while my wife and I were packing to stay with her parents over the Thanksgiving break, I decided to leave home the book I was currently reading, a three-pound hardcover edition of Doris Kearns Goodwin’s Abraham Lincoln biography Team of Rivals, so to save space in my bag. Besides, my mother-in-law had recently mentioned that she has a copy of the same book, so I knew I could pick up where I left off when we arrived.
Unfortunately, my mother-in-law’s copy was nowhere to be found, so she kindly routed around in her library to find me a couple of books I might be interested in reading instead.
She came up with Walter Isaacson’s biography of Leonardo da Vinci, and Bob Woodward’s newest presidential biography, Fear: Trump in the White House.
I had heard great things of Isaacson’s latest work. Ryan Holiday had recently praised it with as much passion as I’ve seen him give any book in recent years in his reading newsletter. My mother-in-law was equally enthusiastic in her praise.
One of the criticisms I sometimes hear of my book is of what they (often people commenting on social media about an article I’ve written) believe to be a chosen lack of responsibilities surrounding some of the people we interviewed in the book. It’s all very well, they say, spending your mornings working out, meditating, and doing what’s most important to you, but where do your kids fit into all of this? Or your partner? Or even your own down time?
The truth is that this couldn’t be further from the truth. The vast majority of the people we spoke to for the book place a lot of weight on the importance of spending time with their loved ones in the morning; especially if they have kids.
As an example, the attorney general of Washington State, Bob Ferguson, noted of his morning routine, “First, I have a little personal time—breakfast, coffee, the morning news… Then I wake up our nine-year-old twins, Jack and Katie—and my wife, Colleen—and I get them ready and out the door for school.” Ferguson continued, “I’m a big believer that how your day starts is really important. It’s easy for meetings to go late at work, or for other events to come up, and I’m not always guaranteed much time with them later in the day, so I like to lock in that morning time.”
Earlier today I was speaking with someone about the importance of following up with people. How often have you sent an email, made a call, or physically knocked on someone’s door, only to receive nothing in return, and then decided to give up altogether?
I discovered the power of following up a few years ago, when My Morning Routine first started accepting sponsorships. Whether I was reaching out to potential sponsors directly, or they had initially reached out to me and I was trying to supply them with further details, I was often shocked at how effective following up on an otherwise dead-looking email chain could be.
And this has continued to be true. When Michael and I were approaching people to be in our book, we would sometimes have to follow-up a couple times (three total emails) before we got a response—often in the affirmative. This consistently surprised me; why—I thought—would they reply enthusiastically to my third email asking them to take part, instead of the first or second? If they were interested in being interviewed, why didn’t they get back to me right away?
One of the criticisms Secretary Clinton received throughout her last presidential campaign was that she was too cagey. She didn’t come across as honest, trustworthy, and like a real person. Whenever she was asked a question during a debate or town hall meeting you could almost see the cogs whirring in her brain as she decided how best to answer.
The same was true of President Obama throughout his presidency. He could hardly be accused of being someone who said anything “off the cuff.” In fact, he was frequently known for over-explaining his answers; giving much more information than the interviewer could possibly want, which in turn hampered their ability to ask further questions.
This is not, however, a rebuttal of Clinton or Obama, both of whom I would have voted for if I were a citizen of this country. Quite the opposite; Secretary Clinton and President Obama have mastered the ability to think before they speak—that old chestnut that was repeated ad nauseam to us as children. While they, Secretary Clinton in particular, were sometimes criticized for this, it’s worth noting that they were criticized for their rare slip-ups—those moments in which they spoke without first thinking through their answer—even more. (Clinton’s “basket full of deplorables,” comment being a particularly well-circulated example.)
I remember the first time something I wrote was translated into a different language. It was a piece I’d written for the Huffington Post about a week before that was doing pretty well. I received an email in Korean with clear Huffington Post branding that directed me to this article (here’s its English counterpart).
I was excited. A few days later the same piece came out in Spanish and German. The excitement continued.
All this is to say that the first translation edition of My Morning Routine, pretty wonderfully titled Mein Morgen Ritual, is available in stores across Germany now! I received my copies in the mail a couple days ago, and it feels pretty great. Despite my co-author Michael being German, I can’t read or speak a word of it, but it’s fun to flick through all the same.